I think honesty is some weird involuntary part of my brain. Sometimes I overshare and don't realize it until the words have escaped my mouth. Sometimes I give vague answers and then realize later that I trust that person and could have been more open.
This makes foster parenting interesting, as we are not supposed to share case details and identifying information. So sometimes I've not wanted to say a specific birthday and say the month instead and get a weird look. Sometimes I start the answer the "how long is he/she staying with you" with a short answer that I realize makes no sense without a longer answer. Or I should smile and nod when someone says something about "such an interesting name" but I end up explaining the origin of the name, which usually leads to more information or questions. I'm a name nerd; it's hard to hold back! And every person I have to weigh in my mind: what level of information should I give to this particular person?
A commenter said it must be hard to have a blog I don't share with local people. It's true, only B knows it exists. I've considered sharing it with a close foster mom friend, but then I know with that door open I'll have trouble not sharing with others, like those in our informal foster mom support group, who are a part of larger Facebook groups that often link to blogs and have agency employees as a part of the groups... I just decided to make tight boundaries and then my involuntary honesty won't kick in at the wrong time. At least it hasn't so far.
And Tadpole is a teeny, tiny guy, so he has attracted attention everywhere we've gone. I got some questions with Cricket (as it's clear she's not my biological child), but I've definitely gotten the most with the babies, especially newborns. He also looks like I could have given birth to him, so I start answering basic questions and then get stuck needing to explain when I can't answer something like "What was his birth weight?"
It's all a little messy. I'll keep doing my best. Maybe I need to do puppet role-play like with my kids with polite short answers like, "I'm not comfortable sharing that, sorry."