So, I'm going to connect in my own way and write up the same thing for her that I just wrote for Beetle.
What I Learned from Pterodactyl
- I learned that the time after a baby's birth can be heartbreaking instead of joyous. Even though my first days with my biological babies were not perfect, I will not take for granted the happy memories.
- I learned that foster care is full of awkward situations.
- I learned having birth parents at doctor's appointments can be a great thing. Even when it's awkward.
- I learned my biological sons love babies and have big hearts.
- I learned that some birth parents will disappoint us, and that it's important to assume the best even when it's a stretch of the imagination.
- I learned that the future is never certain. I learned this about Pterodactyl's future with us, but I see my children's future differently now. I realized how easily and readily I imagine future days that are not promised to me, that I'm not entitled to.
- I learned that I'm more selfish and judgmental than I thought I was.
- Concerned expression. Pterodactyl is by far the most serious baby I've ever met, and Dinosaur was not a particularly smiley baby. Even when she smiled and laughed, within seconds she went back to this look of "What do you think you're doing exactly?" It was so much a part of her that it cracked us up.
- Cheeks. I'd never had a baby with cheeks!
- Hair. She was born with lots of silky hair, which took on a life of its own. It did make me nervous at times that I wasn't caring for it properly despite my best efforts to be informed, but how much fun to have a baby with a full head of hair.
- Baby girl clothes. If I never have a girl again, a selfish little part of me is happy that I had the chance to enjoy shopping for baby girl clothes. And I'm not usually much of a shopper.
- Her love for baths. It was a nice time to be just the two of us.
- Her low-pitched little baby voice. At 7 months by the time she moved, she wasn't talking, but when she made little noises, they were these quiet little things. Her (very rare) laugh was like "heh heh."
- Her name. I can't share it, of course, but her mom picked a name that I had never heard before and may have never chosen for my own child because pronunciation difficulties, but I thought it was just beautiful all the same. I loved saying it. I'm dying to know what she's going to name the twins.