This is the second time this month that a certain social worker at my agency has called and talked about how things are going in general, then slipped in a placement request. Sneaky.
So, Beetle will not be moving to grandma to join his sister, because the GAL visited grandma and wants the sister removed. Yikes. This means that his sister needs a home, and we already have the brother, so of course we got a call. And of course I want to say yes, but we decided to say no. (Well, okay, I wimped out and said please look for other homes that could take both and if you can't keep them together, call again.)
I don't want Beetle to leave, but it's not extremely compelling for them to both be here. Beetle has only had a week at home with us, and a week with me visiting in the NICU. It's not a bad time for him to move. I've met his sister at visits, and I would love to scoop up that cutie and bring her home, but there are at least three big issues. 1) She's almost 3, and we said we wouldn't have a foster child the same age as our bio children. We want to stay at least 6 months younger. 2) She has night terrors. As it is, we are taking turns holding Beetle all but one hour of the night. I literally do not know how we would be able to help her, too. 3) She's moved around a lot, and this will be another traumatic move. Beetle needs a lot of attention and has tons of appointments, so with that combined with the needs of our bio kids, and my part-time teaching schedule... we shouldn't do it.
I'm praying the right family is found for both of them. If not and they call again, this will be a hard one. Even though there are all the reasons above for not taking this placement, I've got a lot of love for Beetle from these two weeks and would like to see him through withdrawal if I can.