The heart of man plans his way, but the Lord establishes his steps. Proverbs 16:9
It's no big surprise. Plan things out for your family, and God will show you the true plan.
We were certain that by limiting our age range to six months younger than our youngest biological child, we were preserving the birth order. No "virtual twins" for us. Not that virtual twins are a bad choice for others, but they were not in our plan.
Well, our new gal Cricket is one year younger than Rhinoceros, but they are virtual twins.
I would bet money that no stranger could pick out that he is one year older. They are the same size, and she is faster and stronger. She is a big sister and acts accordingly. She is also more of a "do it myself" personality than he is, so that makes her seem older as well.
When Rhinoceros met her, I picked him up from a friend's house and put him in the car. She was asleep in the car seat, and he talked on and on about the baby. I tried to explain to him that she is not a baby, but I believe that she's in the same convertible car seat as our foster babies established that she was a baby.
Today, when Cricket wants to tell Rhinoceros what's up, she's been calling him Baby. "Baby, that's mine!"
So, we have two toddlers, both convinced that they are not the baby in the household. So much for my birth order plans. God, weren't You supposed to send us a meek wide-eyed little toddler? One that Rhinoceros could be a helper and leader with?
But I trust that He has prepared us in ways we don't know. And I trust she is with us for a reason.