After church, a teacher in the children's ministry told B about a prayer request. Dinosaur had asked for prayer because he felt sad that Crocodile would leave our home and he would miss him.
There are no immediate plans for Crocodile to move, but there are several possible outcomes that lead that direction, some sooner than later. And I think even if he thought he might stay, we would still plant the idea of a probable goodbye. It's hard to know how to handle the possibility of adoption with kids, and I know if we had a case that really was going toward adoption, it would be hard to know what to say. We have close friends who will be finalizing an adoption soon. I want to celebrate with my kids that know that family, and yet I know it could be painful for them to know that for this foster family, they didn't have to say goodbye that time. So why do they have to say goodbye to the foster siblings that they love?
We talked about his sad feelings. "I just love playing with him so much!" We brainstormed what can help (taking lots of pictures and videos, especially some of them playing together). We had just watched Inside Out, and talked about how we can feel sad about happy things because we miss someone or worry about losing them. We talked about how in the movie when Sadness came out, it could lead to help, comfort, and sometimes good things And we were always hear to talk when he felt sad.
It still felt incomplete. They fall hard for kids, and Dinosaur has fallen especially hard for Crocodile. He talks about his cuteness pretty much every day. God help their tender hearts, help them to mend and go on to be listening ears for others that experience loss.
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